WHAT IF YOU LACK CONFIDENCE AS A LEADER? 

My identify is Ray Higden and I educate Community Entrepreneurs faith-based mindset and Management rules that work.

What for those who lack confidence as a pacesetter? I all the time prefer to share a few verses that associate with the subject I’m protecting immediately.  

I Have Two Verses For You.

Primary is 2 Timothy 1:7. That is one it’s important to all the time come again to…. “For God has not given us a spirit of concern, however of energy and of affection and of a sound thoughts.” Need to do not forget that.. matter of truth it jogs my memory of when you consider the 12 spies that Moses despatched out. 10 of them got here again crammed with concern. They have been like “yeah man there’s Giants they usually have wonderful weapons.” Caleb and Joshua have been like “let’s go we’ve got the arm of the Lord with us…let’s go knock him out…let’s go take that land.” Once you really feel concern that must be an indicator that’s not of God.

Second verse after which I’ll get into takeaways. I don’t know that I can declare I say it day-after-day however I say it fairly a bit, Psalm 168 “I hold my eyes all the time on the Lord with him at my proper hand I cannot be shaken.” That is the idea of talking to your self greater than you hearken to your self. Catching concern and saying no thanks.

A Few Takeaways For You. 

Takeaway primary, anytime you expertise concern it’s not of God. God is Not Afraid and He doesn’t need you afraid. Let concern be the alarm bell that it’s essential look extra towards God than your personal talents or different individuals or your circumstances. Do you spend extra time observing your circumstances or turning your toes towards God? Most individuals stare at their circumstances, they stare at their lack, they stare at their monetary wrestle, the connection wrestle, the wrestle with their youngsters, the wrestle within the faculty districts, the wrestle with politics, they stare far more in any respect of this stuff which can be lesser than God. They stare at themselves, they stare at others, they stare at their circumstances. When it’s essential plant your toes and look towards God, hold your eyes all the time on the Lord. Psalm 168.

Takeaway quantity two, I’d counsel that you just renew your thoughts and memorize that Psalm. memorize it. Say it with gusto. Once you catch that concern, while you catch that lack, while you catch that shortage, that confidence concern, that I’m not enough-ness or self-worth concern…while you catch it say, “whoa whoa whoa I’ll hold my eyes on the Lord with him at my proper hand I cannot be shaken.” Say it with energy, let that energy effectively up in you. Don’t simply succumb to what’s happening on the earth or what’s happening with others or what you’re pondering to resume that thoughts. Say it, get it, study it, personal it, possess it.

Then takeaway quantity three. and this will likely hit you a bit exhausting, it typically does. Bear in mind you have been purchased at a worth and it was full worth. Jesus died on a cross after committing no sins and we’ve got self-worth points? It’s disrespectful. He died for us. You probably have self value points know that somebody that we didn’t deserve died for us, gave His solely son. Requested it of Abraham however stopped him earlier than he did it, however then gave His solely son for us and our salvation.  Bear in mind, 1 Corinthians 10:5, we take captive each thought to make it obedient to Christ. So each time you’re feeling that insecurity, each time you’re feeling a self-worth concern, each time you will have concern…what are others going to assume, what in the event that they reject me. Each time you will have that, take that captive and make it obedient to Christ. Say, “no Christ died for me. God loves me. I’m not right here to have self-worth points.” If it’s not of God then what may or not it’s? It’s the enemy. The enemy is fearful of you moving into your energy. The enemy is terrified about you getting away from leaning by yourself efforts, the enemy is fearful of you changing into extra depending on God than your self. Terrified as a result of with God, something is feasible…With God you are able to do nice issues.

How I’ve Utilized or Failed At It.

Primary, I used to wrestle with the thought of authority. As a pacesetter there have been like two completely different departments I suppose. So if somebody employed me as a coach I had no downside telling them what they wanted to listen to. No downside telling them it’s essential change this, cease doing that…no downside as a result of they’d granted me entry and it was honoring them for me to shoot them straight. One of the best coaches I ever had all the time shot me straight, they didn’t inform me what I needed to listen to, they informed me what I wanted to listen to. Nonetheless there was this different division, compartment, or class and that was individuals who labored for me and my youngsters. I struggled with mentoring them. I struggled with teaching them. I wasn’t even certain why….till I spotted that I had a serious downside with authority. See all through my total life I didn’t have any good examples. I had those that I ought to have been capable of belief that betrayed me. I noticed any type of management over my household or over those that labored for me. Properly they didn’t join my mentorship…they didn’t ask me particularly for teaching…that’s extra of an authority place, so I struggled with it. I actually did as a result of I didn’t have any good examples of it. It felt bizarre to me so it was all the time unusual to me that I may have somebody pay me (50 Grand, 100 Grand) to educate them or mentor them and I may shoot them straight, no downside. Inform them precisely what they should change…they acquired extra outcomes. When it got here to individuals who didn’t pay me I struggled.

For a few of you the explanation that you just’re distant from God is since you had a father concern along with your organic father. That concern along with your organic father you might be projecting onto your heavenly father however they’re completely different. One is ideal in loving you, the opposite one did the perfect he may and the perfect he may might not have been superb. I spotted that I checked out my organic father as imply, uncaring, I wasn’t ok, he’d by no means be pleased with me and that’s actually precisely how I seen God. However that’s inaccurate, that’s not true. I’m accepted by God. I’m cherished by God. He gave His son for me…for you. As soon as I spotted that my wrestle with authority needed to do with my previous, then I may change.

Properly what ought to or not it’s? The reply is I must be mentoring the those that work for me, I must be mentoring my youngsters as effectively and it modified the dynamics of how I interacted with my household.

Quantity two I began leaning extra on God than different individuals or myself. The truth is it was solely a bit bit greater than per week in the past that God fully modified my total enterprise thought course of. We’re taught the Lord’s Prayer, proper? Let His can be completed on Earth, as it’s in heaven, however you’re not taught to search out out His will for you. Why not discover out His will? “Lord, what would you like from me? What ought to my profession be? The place do you name me? The place am I anointed?” It was a bit bit over per week in the past I prayed to God and I mentioned, “Father, I need to know what’s your will for me…the place would you like me to stroll? Am I in the proper place?” He gave me a brand new tagline. He actually downloaded in my thoughts that, “I educate Community Entrepreneurs faith-based mindset and Management rules that work.” I wouldn’t have had these ideas…my tagline was very completely different from it. I look again at my content material simply over this final week…I’m like man… It’s so dialed in now. Swiftly my YouTube Channel’s been rising sooner than it has…arguably ever. Swiftly my Instagram began rising sooner. Swiftly issues began taking off as a result of I’m not solely strolling in His will for me however I’m additionally praying that His can be completed. It is sort of a covenant between me and Him. I’m like okay that’s your will. Now He may have mentioned ditch digger. If He mentioned ditch digger I’d be digging ditches proper now….you wouldn’t be listening to from me until I used to be capturing a video of “hey guys out right here digging ditches” proper? The trick that most individuals don’t perceive…. you’ve most likely heard the proverb of “commit your methods to the Lord and he’ll make your path straight” effectively why don’t you determine His excellent plan for you after which stroll in that…pray on that. To be completed for His will to be completed realizing His will versus some nameless Lord simply your can be completed proper. You don’t even know what it’s…don’t you assume it’s good that the instrument is aware of what the desire of the daddy is? Is the desire of the Lord and then you definitely stroll in that appointment.

Properly you are able to do that too. You’ll be able to ask! However ever since I did that….I look again I used to be simply at World Equestrian Middle (stunning place) my spouse had her horse carted up there and he or she rode round… that’s like her heaven. It was nice. I shot just a few completely different movies and I seemed again at my content material from the final week and it was really easy to knock out movies. I checked out my content material from previous to that…earlier than God gave me that new tagline and it was a bit murky…it was out of my anointing. I look again at this final week and I’m like “yeah child!” Really easy for me to speak about…I take a look at the previous I’m like…I imply it was good, however not in my anointing.

How are you going to apply?

Primary. Simply in a sophisticated matter perceive what confidence is? When you lack confidence… confidence is one thing you acquire after you’ve completed one thing. Confidence is one thing you will have after you’ve completed one thing. See you weren’t assured that you might swim earlier than you jumped within the pool. “I’m completely assured, let’s go..”.no you’re like, “effectively I’m going to offer it a shot, however I’m a bit afraid.” You will have been courageous, you might have been brave, however you weren’t assured. You weren’t assured that you might trip a motorcycle earlier than you probably did. I acquired this…I’m simply going to hop up there and steadiness myself and push the pedals. That’s all there may be…. no you didn’t learn an e-book and impulsively you might trip a motorcycle. You weren’t assured about using a motorcycle…fell down and then you definitely figured it out. Then you definitely grew to become assured. Perceive that confidence isn’t one thing you should buy or smoke or no matter….you will have confidence after the very fact. So for those who’ve by no means led a staff and also you’re being referred to as into management, it’s fairly pure so that you can lack confidence. Nonetheless, don’t let that develop into concern as a result of we all know that He offers us a spirit not of concern, however of energy and a sound thoughts. So it’s best to “alarm bell” that concern and say “effectively wait a minute…am I fearful of what others will assume greater than I belief in my father? Am I fearful how individuals are going to guage me and the way I’ll look to others greater than I think about my heavenly father.”

So first bear in mind, confidence is one thing you acquire after the very fact, after you’ve survived one thing, overcome one thing, discovered one thing, completed one thing. 

Quantity two. Use concern as an alarm bell that “hey one thing’s off right here…” I had to try this final night time in prayer…I acquired bombarded. I do know I already informed my spouse this, “I’m like hey babe simply so you already know this can be a breakthrough month after which within the subsequent 9 to 11 days we’re going to face some assaults I simply understand it…we’re going to face some assaults, however we’ve got to remain robust within the Lord. With Him at our proper hand we can’t be shaken.” It’s a must to hold talking concern out of you. It’s a must to communicate, hold talking destructive ideas out of you and catch ideas, proper? Once more we take captive each thought to make it obedient to Christ. It’s a must to study to catch that as a result of that’s not an indicator that that’s not what try to be doing, since you’ll by no means really feel like doing one thing you’ve by no means completed earlier than…. So for those who’ve by no means spoken on stage, for those who’ve by no means led a staff, then you definitely’re not going to be assured. You’re not going to really feel like doing it. You should lean extra on God than you do on your self and your talents and your previous, your historical past. Simply hold asking, “Lord what’s your will on this scenario” so there’s three issues right here...primary, “Lord what’s your will for this example.” Quantity two, what ought to I pray for on this scenario? Quantity three, what knowledge do you will have for me on this scenario? Now a suggestion that I’ve… (and this can be a new realization to me) get in His presence first, earlier than you make these prayers. Earlier than you pray for His will. What ought to I be praying for? Which often is simply His will proper? however generally He’ll offer you a phrase after which knowledge. Earlier than you ask of Him, get in His presence. You get in His presence with two issues I’ve seen…reward and worship.

“God You’re The giver of all good and excellent items, father you’re the maker, you’re the creator of Heaven and Earth, father thanks for being with me, thanks for being with me.”

When you don’t really feel something (I’ve had this occur) possibly it’s essential say sorry. To humble your self. I’ll know if I’m not feeling His presence. I’ve had this occur twice now and I simply really realized it final night time. Twice I’m going to get into His presence I don’t really feel something I’m like ahh proper? That is most likely the final month actually each time I pray I really feel His presence on me. It’s simply  a tremendous expertise, however twice I didn’t really feel it and so I mentioned, “father father please forgive me of something that I’ve completed knowingly or unknowingly and I forgive anybody who’s completed something flawed to me like actually something father please assist me forgive anybody that’s completed something flawed to me…” Swiftly increase! I felt His presence, so there was one thing the place I had gone towards His will. I don’t know precisely what, however there was one thing that I wanted to ask forgiveness of and it’s possible you’ll argue…effectively weren’t we forgiven on the cross? All I can let you know is private expertise of after I ask, after I humble myself and say sorry if I’m not feeling His presence impulsively…increase I do. When you’re not feeling His presence, you’re not listening to from Him then it might imply which may be a superb step for you.

Phrases of Encouragement for You!

Don’t let a insecurity stop you from transferring ahead. You have got a calling in your life… there’s a cause that you just’re right here. I don’t know precisely what that’s however He does. I respect you so very a lot and I hope that that is useful for you. Know that God loves you, He loves you a lot He received’t assist you to keep the identical. We develop by way of our challenges. Now, “no self-discipline appears Nice on the time however painful, but it surely produces in us a perseverance.” Preserve transferring ahead. This can be a difficult time for you, however simply hold leaning in your father greater than you lean by yourself talents and knowledge.