Flip ideas into actuality… “if we don’t know what we wish, how can we count on to get there or get it? It’s like in Alice in Wonderland, if you happen to don’t know the place you’re going, then any path will take you, even a foul path.”
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Flip Ideas Into Actuality
Ray Hidgon: Very, very cool. Inform me just a little bit, how’s your community advertising and marketing journey been? How lengthy have you ever been in, what are you as much as?
Julie: Very long time in the past I did after I turned 18, that was a catastrophe, and did all these and failed miserably, so I used to be carried out with it till simply
Ray Hidgon: Why was it a catastrophe? What made it a catastrophe?
Julie: I used to be 18 and it was under no circumstances what I wished to do and it was simply events and pushing issues and I used to be, “Neh, not my factor.” After which I taught ballroom dance for a very long time after which it simply wasn’t one thing I wished to do. After which truly the final 5 years, in all probability I used to be searching for my son, my oldest, who has Tourette’s, I used to be carried out with medical doctors and on this mission to search out one thing to assist him myself.
And so we did the CBD route, I examined all of them for years and nothing after which that’s how I ended up the place I’m at now. And I made a decision if I used to be going to do that, I used to be going to do it precisely what they are saying, there’s no possibility, that is going to be the one. Everybody’s, “Oh, one other one,” however I’m going to be the millionaire I’ve determined.
Julie: It’s true.
Ray Hidgon: Even a path of abuse, even a path of negativity, even a path… If we don’t know what we wish or the place we’re going, then simply hold doing what you’re doing. We need to know, who can we need to be, the place can we need to go? And as soon as we set up that, is it, and I don’t need to put phrases in your mouth, however what’s it? You bought a magic wand, poof. “I’m the Julie, I need to be…” What does that Julie appear to be?
Julie: You need a solution now or am I speculated to suppose? Profitable.
Ray Hidgon: What does that imply? What does profitable imply? It sounds good. What does that imply now?
Julie: Do what I say I’m going to do. Comply with via with it. I’ve been coaching and coaching
Ray Hidgon: In order that’s integrity.
Julie: Oh yeah.
Ray Hidgon: That’s integrity and if you happen to do what you say you’re going to do, that’s integrity and I’m questioning right here, do you inform your self that you just’re going to do issues, however don’t do them?
Julie: Yeah. So far as the prospecting and stuff, after which I simply discover each different factor that’s not proper so I can’t do it.
Ray Hidgon: This can be a massive deal as a result of until somebody’s only a con artist, until somebody is only a scammer, it’s very tough if we don’t hold our phrase with ourselves, for us to count on anybody to belief us, for us to count on… And we don’t ever say that consciously. We don’t say, “I don’t suppose individuals belief me.” We by no means say that. However subconsciously, if we are saying, “I’m going to go for that run, I’m going to put in writing that guide, I’m going to succeed in out to 10 individuals,” and we don’t do it, each time it’s a chipping away at how we consider in ourselves and in our integrity with ourselves, which impacts each different piece of integrity in our whole life.
Julie: I don’t know why that simply introduced one thing up that may have one thing to do with that. My greatest pal, a very long time in the past, we had been truly beginning a enterprise, as a result of I used to be a make-up artist and we had some huge cash put into it and we had been going to do that after which proper earlier than my wedding ceremony, she killed herself. I don’t know what that… By no means even… Which may have one thing to do with that. I don’t know. Simply popped in my head.
Ray Hidgon: Had been you enthusiastic about that enterprise?
Julie: Oh yeah. We each had been.
Ray Hidgon: You could draw the conclusion that the extra excited and the extra I present up for my enterprise, tragedy follows. How does that really feel?
Julie: That that makes extra sense and I actually by no means even put it collectively till one thing you simply mentioned.
Ray Hidgon: 95% of what’s occurring is our unconscious.
Julie: Proper.
Ray Hidgon: 5% is what we consciously suppose. I believe I desire a sandwich now. 95% is simply on autopilot and patterns and addictions to feelings and we’re simply this meat swimsuit that another person is pulling the strings. We’re not pulling the strings as a result of all of the programming and issues that we’ve noticed, that we’ve translated are operating ourselves.
Julie: Proper.
Ray Hidgon: And so there isn’t a compartmentalization of, I used to be tremendous excited a couple of enterprise. I believe it was going to go superb after which my greatest pal on the planet killed herself and, oh, that’s a compartmentalized factor. Now we are able to simply run a brand new enterprise. No, what’s the conclusion I might draw. What’s the conclusion you drew from that unlucky factor that occurred?
Julie: Sincere, I didn’t even suppose something of the enterprise a part of it. It was taking some time to get began and try this and stuff, however I actually didn’t even care concerning the enterprise a part of it after that. I used to be simply in shock.
Ray Hidgon: Proper, after that, however earlier than that it sounds such as you guys had been excited and fired up.
Julie: Oh, yeah, we undoubtedly had been. After which, I don’t know. I actually by no means actually… I might see our papers and stuff each on occasion that I’ve for taxes and I might lose it, however I actually by no means thought something extra. I used to be mad at her.
Ray Hidgon: Certain.
Julie: Simply generally, I’ve had manner too many suicides in my life, however that one was the worst. A enterprise simply by no means even crossed my thoughts once more, that wasn’t… I used to be a make-up artist for 20 years. This was simply an addition so it didn’t section me that a lot, however by no means actually thought of it.
Ray Hidgon: Effectively, if it’s arising, it’s attempting to inform you one thing.
Julie: Yeah, simply now, it’s bizarre.
Ray Hidgon: I simply actually consider that there might very simply and understandably be a conclusion of, the extra excited I get about enterprise, the extra I get into enterprise. And so if we affiliate pleasure about enterprise with tragedy, then the one technique to escape tragedy will not be be enthusiastic about enterprise, will not be go after with enterprise. So long as I play it small in enterprise and I don’t get too excited and I don’t go too laborious, then tragedy hopefully is not going to occur.
Julie: By no means consciously thought that, however that sounds about proper. How do I repair it?
Ray Hidgon: Effectively, you’ll be able to perceive. First, only a step manner again right here, one is, determine what you truly need. What model of you’ll be, holy Shit that’s superb, I can’t consider I’ve develop into this Julie. What would that be? What would that appear to be? Would you be inspiring individuals, would you be impacting individuals, would you be constructing stuff? Would you be Ferrari’s, would you be…? I don’t need to put phrases in your mouth.
Julie: No.
Ray Hidgon: What would that appear to be? Probably the most highly effective model of Julie that exists.
Julie: Effectively, I might have a ton of cash and it could be, each birthday I do the suicide donation issues and consciousness so that may nonetheless be much more and simply serving to individuals clearly as a result of she was the thirteenth one since I used to be in highschool and that’s ridiculous. That’s a giant deal and simply be residence, however not a keep at residence mother, like individuals say it’s a foul factor, I might work a number of hours a day and really be there and lift my children and stuff and never have to fret about cash so I might do all the pieces, for everyone else too. I need to be you after I develop up.
Ray Hidgon: You’ve a really distinctive story. You may actually give cash. I might give cash, and now we have, to assist with foster care, however as a substitute I’m rolling up my sleeves and I’m being involved-
Julie: Doing it.
Ray Hidgon: … and so are you able to. And I simply need you to know that while you go into this world, you’ve got the potential for truly stopping suicides and also you sharing your story. You have already got a narrative like many individuals, of trauma. Yours is exclusive, similar to mine is exclusive, similar to everybody else has one thing distinctive. Yesterday I used to be teaching somebody with cerebral palsy that has relations that picked on her and made enjoyable of her. It’s simply ridiculous. So she has her story, however what makes her story actually get on the market and actually make a distinction is when, regardless of the story, you go create success.
Ray Hidgon: And so I need you to consider, sure, you’ll be able to actually go on the market and make a lot of cash and crush it, give it to them and, it doesn’t need to be or, and you’ll select to start out sharing your story and begin sharing how others really feel when a detailed one commits suicide in order that anybody that ever hears your voice, they hear that and so they second guess that call. You may be saving marriages, you could possibly be saving mothers and dads, you could possibly be saving greatest buddies, you could possibly be saving totally different, necessary companies that we’re launching. You could be saving all types of individuals by you sharing your story and the way in which that you just get there’s by you displaying, I overcame this tragedy that knocked me out of the sport for a very long time.
Ray Hidgon: Since you’re saying it, “I didn’t even care concerning the enterprise after that.” Yeah, that is smart that you just didn’t, nevertheless it’s additionally carried over. It’s additionally carried over into with one foot on the brake, you’re attempting to construct a enterprise, however you probably have this–
Julie: That’s precisely what it’s been.
Ray Hidgon: … “Oh shit, what’s going to occur? Let me overthink it. You recognize what? I in all probability want enterprise playing cards. You recognize what, what colour? Purple. I’ll get purple, I’ll have strains. No, no strains.” Let’s simply waste time doing nothing in order that we by no means have this tragedy.
Julie: That’s precisely what it’s. Wow. That was just about spot on.
Ray Hidgon: As a substitute, change it to, if I am going do that, if I am going make it rain, if I am going make it occur and I attain the highest, then I’m going to assist lots of people on the market as a result of I’ve a novel story to share and I may help save lots of people.
Julie: Wow. Yep. I believe that’s precisely what was occurring.
Ray Hidgon: How does that really feel?
Julie: Unusual, however good. I didn’t know that that was even a factor. And I figured it had one thing to do with my medical historical past and rising up. However, wow, it is smart.
Ray Hidgon: A few issues for you. One, I might take a minute and write it on a bit of paper. Who’s the Julie you actually need to be? What does that appear to be? I’ve thrown some stuff on the market, however you write it in your personal phrases and that’s the individual that you’re turning into and finally who you need to be. And if you happen to try this strolling trance, be that particular person. I’m telling you, you’ll really feel totally different. Be that individual that simply acquired requested to talk to the worldwide convention towards suicide. The suicide consciousness conference, the suicide… Actually be that one who’s being ushered into the inexperienced room to get able to go up on stage and influence individuals. Provided that that feels good to you, if it doesn’t really feel good, then throw that away. However what would make you actually really feel good and what model of your self? And take the time to put in writing that down so now now we have a goal.
Julie: Okay.
Ray Hidgon: After which the subsequent time that you end up overthinking it, transfer ahead imperfectly, similar to you’ve got with meditation, similar to I did with meditation. I’ll inform you a joke. One in every of my coaches, he’s been telling me for 2 years, he goes, “Dude, it’s good to be doing extra face-to-face teaching on-line. You coach individuals behind the scenes, they blow up their enterprise, they alter their life and nobody ever sees it. You should be doing extra of this,” what we’re doing proper now. And I’m… And I used to be actually scared to get it fallacious. I used to be scared to mess up. I used to be scared that I might miss a clue and I might misdiagnose somebody and inform them to do one thing that truly wouldn’t assist them. And so he’s, “Effectively, how did you get into meditation?” This was lately, this was truly final week. And I mentioned, “Effectively, I simply began constructing the muscle and I did it fallacious the primary few months.” And he’s, “Precisely, freaking do it.” And so this week I’ve carried out no less than two laser teaching periods a day–
Julie: Oh, that’s what’s occurring.
Ray Hidgon: … each single day–
Julie: I find it irresistible.
Ray Hidgon: …. one, to construct the muscle as a result of I see this as making a distinction. We see the feedback of individuals shedding their thoughts since you’re impacting individuals proper now by being weak and all these feedback are coming in on the way you’ve helped them. You have already got the facility to assist individuals and influence individuals and simply transfer ahead imperfectly. You’re not going to get each prospecting factor proper, you’re not going to get each follow-up excellent, however you’re going to maintain shifting towards that particular person you need to develop into by entering into that motion.
Julie: I find it irresistible. Thanks.
Ray Hidgon: Does that assist?
Julie: Yeah. Yeah.
Ray Hidgon: All proper.
Julie: My wheels are going loopy now, however sure, it’s very… I don’t suppose you could possibly get it fallacious and it’s not such as you’re going to do that fallacious as a result of nothing goes to harm. Thanks although. Rather a lot to consider now.
Ray Hidgon: Take into consideration, otherwise you going to do some issues?
Julie: Effectively, consider me for what I need after which I’m going to stroll.
Ray Hidgon: Okay. All proper. All proper. Effectively, hold us within the loop. We’re rooting for you.
Julie: All proper, thanks.
Ray Hidgon: All proper. Julie, everyone.
